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When have I cheated on God by loving
myself or someone else more than I love Him?
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When have I cheated on God by putting
my own desires ahead of His?
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Have I been lazy in my prayer time or
Scripture study or other activities that would increase my spiritual
growth?
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God created me either male or female,
and He does not make mistakes. Do I have difficulty accepting my sexual
identity or the shape of the body He’s given me?
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God created men and women to be equal
in personal dignity. Have I degraded members of the opposite sex? Or of my
own gender?
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When did I cheat on my spouse by
behaving as if I’m more valuable or more worthy of attention than he or
she is?
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Chastity in a sacramental marriage
means that a husband and wife give themselves fully to each other for the
rest of their lives. Have I chosen to keep any part of myself from my
spouse, such as my sexuality, my fertility or my permanent commitment?
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Is my marriage only civil, and not
sacramental? If so, I have rejected Christ from being part of the union,
and therefore it is not a valid marriage in His or the Church’s eyes
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Has my relationship with my spouse (or
have any of my romantic relationships) failed to reflect to the world
God’s love? Has our marriage publicly set a poor example of commitment and
unconditional union?
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If I’m divorced, did I sever what had
once been a loving agreement, contracted in full freedom, and originally
intended to be lifelong? (It is not a sin if the separation was made for
the good of the spouses and the children due to extreme and radical
incompatibility, and if the agreement made on the wedding day was not made
lovingly and in full freedom. Nor have I sinned if my spouse abandoned me
due to his or her own irresponsibility without any desire for
reconciliation.)
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Have I divorced and remarried civilly
without obtaining an annulment? If so, I’m not validly married to the new
spouse; in the eyes of God, I'm still married to my first spouse.
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Do I dislike or reject the idea of
making a life-time commitment to my spouse? Have I been unable to make
such a commitment, even though on my wedding day I professed to do it? If
so, I’m being untrue to my partner, to myself, and to God.
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Have I committed fornication or
adultery (sex outside of marriage)? This includes having sexual relations
with my spouse before our wedding day, and remarriage without first
getting an annulment from the Church.
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Have I masturbated, which is having sex
with myself instead of my spouse?
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Lust is a disordered desire for—or an
inordinate enjoyment of—sexual pleasure for its own sake, isolated from
the desire to give love to my spouse for procreative and unitive purposes.
Have I had lustful thoughts? Sinful touches? Impure glances?
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Have I told any "dirty" jokes?
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When did I allow my passions to control
me, instead of using self-control for love of others under the guidance of
God? This concerns sexual conduct, but it also relates to anger, spending
money, being ruled by fear or impatience, etc.
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Have I worn immodest clothing in
public? Some people who saw me may have been sex addicts, and seeing me
could have triggered their compulsion to go and act sinfully.
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Have I read pornographic books or
magazines? Or watched movies or TV shows that contained sexual scenes or
impure plots?
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Did I ever commit incest? Or have I
abused anyone (including my spouse) by forcing intimate physical contact
upon them?
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If I am or if I know a homosexual
person, am I failing to encourage chastity, healing, and God’s call to
unite the difficulties of this condition to the sacrifice of Jesus on the
cross?
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Have I treated homosexuals without
respect, compassion and sensitivity?
